I’m just wondering…what motivates some women to go after men who they know are taken?? I mean seriously…what would you do if you knew that your man was being chatted up by some girls..who all happen to be much younger than you? And you as the man, what makes you not tell them that you’re taken and so they should keep the banter on a friendly note??? Is it coz you enjoy being flattered ama?? (right now I don’t want to consider the alternative).
Question: (I’ve been having quite a few of these huh?) If you knew that your significant other used to regularly go through your messages.. emails.. contents of your wallet/ handbag, what would you do? And on the other hand, ever gone through your beloved’s stuff?? why would you? (I rem one ex of mine who went through my phone messages in a fit of jealousy..and since then things were just weird..I used to think only women had tabias* like that but wasn’t I surprised..tsk tsk)
Songs for today:
- Easy like Sunday Morning- The Commodores
- Prototype- Outkast
- Can you believe- Robin Thicke
*Behaviour
13 responses so far ↓
31337 // May 12, 2008 at 10:49 pm |
trust. their stuff is theirs, i stay out of it.
Mwangi -the Displaced African // May 12, 2008 at 11:38 pm |
A man with a girlfriend is many times more attractive than a man without. I have often heard men lament how women only begin being friendly once they have a girlfriend/ significant other. Before then, they may as well have been invisible. Men, unless very good looking, are not used to being hit on so it’s very flattering. And of course there is the alternative…..for a lot of African men, monogamy and commitment are fairytales so…..sad but true.
I don’t mind people going through my things very much, as long as they leave them the way they found them. A man with nothing to hide hides nothing…heck if you want to go through my stuff while I’m there feel free as long as you are not sneaking around behind my back.
I guess its coz the guy is more confident in himself..coz he’s not trying to get with someone..but still, he should try and tone down the flirting.
threetypesofcrazy // May 13, 2008 at 6:39 am |
If you play with fire, you will get burned.
What makes girls do that I am not sure. But I would not shoot them straight away, I would talk to them- that story might be bigger than you know.
It will take a special type of gy to tell girls to back off. Guys tend to love the attention more than girls do.
And my guess is, dude has not said he is spoken for. Again a bigger story.
Going through your beloved stuff? what are you looking for? Why are you looking? Why are you still there if you can’t trust? Although having said that, maybe if we did go through each other’s text messages, those texts that “the girls” are sending him or the “boys” are sending her would be found earlier and less hearts would be broken. You know if he/she has something on the side and is busy denying it to your face but texting someone else while you are still in your trusting world, then maybe love would be black and white.ACCOUNTABILITY IS A GREAT THING.
Tandra // May 13, 2008 at 8:32 am |
tis pretty simple really.. its coz u can. no matter what u doing or u doing to someone, its coz u can do it, that u do.
betty // May 13, 2008 at 10:37 am |
hahaha yeah whats wrong with such girls? hmh i wonder.
Going through is stuff is normal…pia yeye si if he aint hiding anything then no worries..kwanza some even leave the phone infront of you and am sure it has crossed his mind that as a chick you will prolly go through it so yeah am not saying its a good thing but enyewe its not a sin hehehe
pinkmemoirs // May 13, 2008 at 11:17 am |
Girls hitting on committed guys is wrong, but what do you say of committed guys who will do anything for you to fall for them?
I don’t go through his stuff, so he has no right to go through mine. If he doesn’t trust me, then he should skip. Going through cell phone content is wrong because it’s so easy to misinterpret some things esp text messages.
valentia // May 13, 2008 at 6:55 pm |
@ 31337…all I can is that life/ love gets complicated at times…sometimes people do things they wouldn’t ordinarily do (emotions I guess)
@ 3TOC, how would you start?? (talking to the girls in question??)
@Tandra..I agree with u.
@ Betty, lol..I agree..whats wrong with them?? Aren’t there other men out there for them to get their flirt on with??
@ Pinkmemoirs..I guess those committed guys are insecure (needing the attention)…ama they aren’t as into the relationship as they should be.
archer // May 13, 2008 at 10:08 pm |
You have great musical taste, I’m sure it’s not the first time I’ve said that. Good stuff.
valentia // May 13, 2008 at 10:41 pm |
@ Archer..thanks..good to see you back
bomseh // May 14, 2008 at 11:47 am |
Going through my phone wud be a breach of trust. Raising hell on smses in my inbox, stuff that I just received, is silly coz I can’t control who writes me smses. Outbox msgs is different, but still, why wud she need to trespass?
modoathii // May 14, 2008 at 3:32 pm |
that jamaa is just enjoying the attention from the ladies…
insecurity makes guys go through peoples messages and texts, why can’t we just trust each other? (and i’m slapped and told to ‘wake up and smell the coffee) heehheheh…
bomseh, hapo kuna element of truth…
Be silent // May 16, 2008 at 6:18 am |
I once went through my now hubby’s inbox and i got what i was looking for…..
Sybella // May 17, 2008 at 10:37 am |
for some chicks, going for an unavailable guy is like a challenge and gives them a thrill…
going through your significant other’s stuff, that is so wrong and indicates a lack of trust. like pinkmemoirs says, it is so easy to misunderstand a message coz it doesn’t give the full picture. i would hit the roof, ma proper!