So Val and Mwende were having a bit of a chat..and as usual the topic of guys eventually came up…So now comes the question she asked me…”Why do SOME men assume that they know where your spot is…and insist that thats the place that turns you on when it clearly it isn’t….”
Now I was quite jazzed and decided to ask around..and yes…it happens..you have a man blowing on your ear with so much nguvu* you wonder what the hell he doing.. I actually had a pal who told me that when she was fed up..she sat up and asked the man what he was doing…lol..needless to say that relationship didn’t last long..So we were wondering how you tell the Mr. that what he’s doing isn’t really working for you..without errr hurting his feelings (or the male equivalent of that)…
How bout when the man decides that the back is your spot and so spends ages err…attempting to turn you on by giving you a massage…now another thing he doesn’t get is that violence doesn’t equal pleasure…the number of girlfriends I’ve heard complaining about men who rub their back like they are kneading dough is too much…
In keeping with that…how do you stave off offers for backrubs?? Hint that maybe giving massages isn’t really one of the gifts he was granted by the Good Lord ama???
The reason I ask is coz if you don’t speak up..the man will probably continue to do his thing..I mean, there’s only so many times you can plan the following day…to the point where you’ve chosen what you’re going to wear and all…(I have been guilty of that in the past must admit)..in the spirit of confessing I must admit that I didn’t have the guts to tell the man that his backrubs were some of the most painful experiences of my life…I mean the point of rubbing someone’s back is to relieve aches and pains..not coz them..right??
(Yes I know this goes both ways coz I’ve heard of male pals who complain of girlfriends attacking their backs in the name of giving them a backrub..but that is a story for another day)
*Force
Playlist for today:
- Work it out-Keyshia Cole
- Let it go-Keyshia Cole
- Make it work-Neyo
- I know what you want – Busta Rhymes ft Mariah Carey and Flipmode Squad
- Forever (remix)-Necessary Noize
- Say something-Mariah Carey ft Pharell and Snoop
