So this is my effort to get rid of the headache that has plagued me since I woke up. I mean what is the point of sleeping if I wake up feeling even more tired than I was? (I saw this sentiment on twitter sometime back and agree with it whole heartedly!)
Dose of Vivian Green in the background….sigh.
Anyhu, this is the last week of my internship. Joy! This past few days have been so dramatic..and for once not my drama. Watching and listening to two of my supervisors arguing their heads of during meetings and in the corridor has been the most fun we’ve had in this place in ages. They simply don’t know how to talk to each other..every question or statement has to be said in an agressive or defensive tone. I simply don’t get them..oh well, maybe they were married in a previous life and hated each others’ guts..who knows?
But for some strange reason, watching them argue is so emotionally draining..I don’t understand it. I love a good argument (ok that’s right up there with my wierd cravings…speaking of which, I’m currently craving a slab of cheese. Just cheese…nothing but soft, melty cheese…*drool*) Ok where was I? Oh yes the supervisors…I guess that’s because they bring that unresolved energy back to us…which just tires me the heck out. Oh wells, I only have four more days here….*jigging for joy*
Now this is me, pausing mid-post to check the phone for the gazillionth time to see if it is ringing or beeping. Le sigh…why is it that when I’m anticipating a call or message the phone never rings or beeps? (Yes I know…a watched pot doesn’t boil..is that the right saying?) So yes, back to typing and keeping my mind focused! This is the problem with coming to work and not having something to do..I distract myself better than anyone or anything I know (ok except Jamie Oliver…my obsession with him still runs deep and strong.)
So in discussions with a beloved, this question came up. What scenario do you think is more preferable? If a guy go through the “friendship route” first, and gets to know you before taking things to the next step…or simply taking the plunge, and just asking you out?
Playlist:
- Vuma Dlozi Lami- Sarafina soundtrack (I have a sudden urge to watch it now!)
- Just the way you are- Billy Joel
- The beautiful place- Tonex
11 responses so far ↓
Mama // September 8, 2009 at 9:04 am |
I prefer to be friends with someone first. It makes things easier for me…..and makes things more comfortable for me. Being friends with someone for too long though is not my thing. A few months will do.
A friend of mine started going out with a friend of hers, they had a very hard time and they couldn’t really look at themselves as a couple coz they had been friends too long! They broke up soon thereafter.
Sultana // September 8, 2009 at 9:13 am |
No, i prefer we get to the point. I dont want to start as friends because if we start that way it will be hard for me to see him anything else than a friend, and at the end of the day if am honest, I dont want my boyfriend/lover to be my friend, I want him to be that boyfriend/lover. Makes things simple.
normzo // September 8, 2009 at 10:07 am |
I plunge and get to know you better later-
Wamathai // September 8, 2009 at 10:49 am |
The friendship route is always the best in my opinion. If you are friends first and then start dating that relationship stands a better chance of lasting.
Basics // September 8, 2009 at 11:40 am |
Good one Val..
I used to do that… get to know you slightly better then ask you out!
Worked well for me…
I hear you on the heated arguments Val…
finally saw your lovely smile (y’know where)
Mckeith // September 8, 2009 at 11:49 am |
The friendship option though it is more heartbreaking…..
Sleek // September 8, 2009 at 12:06 pm |
amen keith…amen
kellie // September 8, 2009 at 12:33 pm |
Yay! Internship is over! Congrats!
It’s better to be friends first IMVHO
Darius Stone // September 8, 2009 at 5:00 pm |
I like the way folks seek to make a choice about friendship or love, as if it was ever a choice that time will make easier.
petesmama // September 9, 2009 at 1:45 pm |
Friendship or plunge, I don’t think it matters – different strokes for different folks. If you’re a slow bloomer, then friendship. If you like it fast and furious, then plunge right in.
Now, what kind of cheese were you thinking about… you’ve got me craving some too!
Basics // September 23, 2009 at 11:54 am |
Erm,
you seem to have lost track of the “publish” button Val…