So something that happened today got me thinking about relationships and the effect family and friends have. I personally have never done this, so I was wondering if it works.
There is this school of thought among some girls (and as it surprisingly turns out men as well) that believe that if the mother and sisters of their SO likes them, then they are more likely to get the guy to commit to them. Don’t get me wrong, I know family acknowledgement is important, and I would not consider being in a serious relationship with someone if my family had good reasons to dislike or distrust him.
However, just because my mother and sisters like you does not mean we are meant to be! I mean surely, in this day and age who still does things like that? Who tries to get all friendly with the person’s siblings in the hope that the siblings will sing your praises and make me see the light, see that you and me are meant to be! NKT!
Even then..that is not too bad…what really gets to me is someone deciding that since I have never introduced them to my family, they would take it upon themselves to make that introduction themselves..and proceed to creep out said sibling. NKT! If you cannot/will never convince me to be in a relationship with you, how will my sister help you? Seriously help me here..I’m bila answers.
*Singing along to Bug a boo by Destinys Child*
“And so what, my momma likes you
What now? I guess you think I will too
Even if the Pope said he likes you too
I don’t really care ’cause you’re a bug a boo“
11 responses so far ↓
kellie // October 23, 2009 at 5:12 am |
When I have an SO, I steer clear of his family. Main reason being, strange families freak the hell out of me, more so if I know they’re assessing me for ‘wife suitability’ and I look nothing like a wife. Then, I come from a family that’s really loud and full of TMI so I fear to say anything lest its inappropriate.
On my SO getting close to my family, it’s kinda unavoidable cos my immediate family are my best friends, so if you hang around me, you’re likely to meet them ALOT.
The SO can go cozying up to them all he wants, I’m not sure their liking him helps his case though.
kellie // October 23, 2009 at 5:13 am |
I forgot. *singing along* ! Shish!
mjay // October 23, 2009 at 6:45 am |
That is all wrong but not to say it hasn’t worked. If SO and I are already committed then family has got to come in. If I am running SO passed mum to see if she can scan any alarms fine, but the other way round nuh!
Mo // October 23, 2009 at 7:37 pm |
Auwiii!
Dude needs to go back to the drawing board.
boyfulani // October 24, 2009 at 8:22 am |
i also once thought so, until something happened and i no longer visits a girl’s home…whatever the case!
wyndago // October 25, 2009 at 4:32 pm |
Ha-ha. Yeah, its kinda so last millenium to think that way. I usually don’t want to get close with even friends of my SO, but for different reasons. It is rather awkward when you find out they are more interesting or that you share much more in common than you do with your SO. Especially when your So is around and she doesn’t have much to contribute to conversation.
3TOC // October 26, 2009 at 10:52 pm |
I think MO needs to draw the board for this dude.
tricia // October 28, 2009 at 8:51 am |
*singing along*
I think it works 50/50. My family is close to me and after awhile they do get to meet him and they’ll tell me what they think other aspects that i may not have seen but I’m the one with the last say..
Darius Stone // October 28, 2009 at 4:50 pm |
LOL Val…you’ve been ambushed, huh???
As much as we hate it, being ambushed is a desperate measure by a desperate partner looking for reinforcements. 2 of my close friends have been ambushed and still suffer the consequences to this day.
Pole dada.
Missy // November 6, 2009 at 10:30 pm |
lol My girl had a crazy ex sending a text pretending to be from his small sis (misspellings and all) begging her ati to talk to her bro WTH? Talk about desperation. ;-0
My cousin on the other hand player to the max always has girls asking to meet his mum. He obliges but still dumps them. His Mum knows he hasn’t changed so she just says hi makes small talk. She gave up on asking their names it’s just my dear for all of them.
theseeker // November 16, 2009 at 9:54 am |
*laughing ass off* Missy’s comment killed me. My mom’s like that too… Unless we’re getting married, and I mean soon and forever and a day, there’s no point in changing who I am/conforming.
I know chaps who got married coz their mom’s insisted on a particular chile only for it to end badly. I blame the dude. What were u thinking!?