So at what point do you know that you have moved on?

Is there supposed to be a big AHA! moment ama a couple of signs here and there will do?

And if you experience a moment of weakness (ie start to miss them, send a random text/email/phonecall/agree to meet up) does that count as a set-back in the “getting over” process ama is that just a random blip?

How do you know that the next relationship you enter into is not a rebound thing?

ValFM:

• Put it on you- Missy Elliott ft Teyana Taylor and Pharrell
• You want this- Janet Jackson
• Its a party- Tamia

So something that happened today got me thinking about relationships and the effect family and friends have. I personally have never done this, so I was wondering if it works.

There is this school of thought among some girls (and as it surprisingly turns out men as well) that believe that if the mother and sisters of their SO likes them, then they are more likely to get the guy to commit to them. Don’t get me wrong, I know family acknowledgement is important, and I would not consider being in a serious relationship with someone if my family had good reasons to dislike or distrust him.

However, just because my mother and sisters like you does not mean we are meant to be! I mean surely, in this day and age who still does things like that? Who tries to get all friendly with the person’s siblings in the hope that the siblings will sing your praises and make me see the light, see that you and me are meant to be! NKT!

Even then..that is not too bad…what really gets to me is someone deciding that since I have never introduced them to my family, they would take it upon themselves to make that introduction themselves..and proceed to creep out said sibling. NKT! If you cannot/will never convince me to be in a relationship with you, how will my sister help you? Seriously help me here..I’m bila answers.

*Singing along to Bug a boo by Destinys Child*

“And so what, my momma likes you
What now? I guess you think I will too
Even if the Pope said he likes you too
I don’t really care ’cause you’re a bug a boo“

I’m smiling (even inside my head)….yes this is something interesting to me coz I haven’t been this way in a while…ok let me rephrase that. I always wake up happy..but somewhere along the way I get a case of the blues…or a feeling that can only be described by myself and lovely over there (——–>> pointing to her) as “Meh!”

Things I’m currently happinessing over:

• Interesting use of technology (at least in the Val family)..having a conversation with my sis and mum over skype and phone at the same time. How do you ask? Skyping with the sis when her phone rings, and I insist on mummy being put on loud speaker…(very LOUD conversation that was).
• Mum kinda okayed my sister to come over to mine for the Christmas break…joy indeed. This is why: I shall cook till I drop (She eats all she wants and remains slim…some of those genes need to be re-awakened in me!) , shop till I drop (or go broke..whichever comes first), talk till I go hoarse (This is self-explanatory), watch seasons of girlie tv programs like ANTM (and get re-acquantained with my missing fashion sense)…and generally chill. Now all we need to do is convince our main bank manager (aka daddy dearest) to ok this (financially..lol) and we’re good to go! (Praying….please let it be!)
• Interesting conversations…good conversations with people I haven’t spoken to in a while have the power to keep me in a high for a while. Right now…the high is major! I finally got the truth from someone. I may have waited since December..but it was ooh so worth it!! This has shown me that sometimes friendship can survive the strain of long silences..and funny (read strange) conversations in between the silences…Just hope this time when we say “Let’s stay in touch“, we actually do stay in touch…I could do with this awesome-ness every now and again!

ValFM:

• Peace- Norah Jones
• Song 2- Blur

Things I’m currently disliking:

• The fact that I’m ID-ed the day I want to make cocktails and dinner for a friend…it may be a compliment to tell me I look under-age, but seriously, the only thing you ended up doing was pissing the heck out of me!
• People who believe you can become bestest of friends at the snap of a finger. This may come off as mean, but seriously if we don’t instantly click…then take it slow….I’m not going anywhere. You don’t have to call me a gazillion couple of times and come by my house when I don’t reply your text within five minutes of it being sent. Sheesh!!
• Bills that have cut into my shoe fund…sigh. This is why I don’t like the start of the sem. There are always random bills popping up. AT THE SAME TIME! Its a conspiracy I tell you!
• The fact that my appetite is increasing like its being paid to do so. I’m constantly eating! (Not cooking mind you, simply because the creative juices find it hard to flow in a filthy kitchen..) But when I’m not nibbling on something…I’m on my way to get stuff to eat…le sigh. Bring on the sports center..because soon these jeans will not fit!!! We can’t have that!
• Group work…so in class we were told that we’d have group presentations that count towards our final mark..and if you have followed my previous rants on the topic, you’ll know that I dislike group work..with the same passion that I dislike people who stalk. Sigh….time to get my smiley face on..and work on virtues of patience, tolerance and what have you…I guess everything has a silver lining huh?
• Impersonal messages…I don’t get why you bother sending them at all. Save your money….I really mean that. (Or is this just me in an iffy mood talking? Nope! I mean it!)

Playlist:

• Regret- Letoya Luckett ft Ludacris

So apparently the process of unburdening myself has led some to conclude that I’m weird…or rather..the workings of my mind are weird…sigh. I guess its back to self-internalizing *ish….which has some side effects.

There was a time when I kept all my issues, secrets, problems, joys and what not to myself. I’d talk to myself a lot (ok I still do…..must confess). Then came a point when I decided to try this trust thing…tried it..and liked it to the point of talking (or typing) myself hoarse..sigh. I guess coz I have this ability to listen to drama (ok mebe its coz I love drama.lols) that I tend to feel that it should be a two-way thing ama? Guess not….

Ever kept so much random stuff inside that it feels like you’re about to internally collapse? Kinda like a cake when you open the oven door too soon, ama a souffle that wasn’t made well….Whooomp! I feel myself collapsing in…

Rationally this mood can be explained…a bout of homesickness,,missing some people, bout of the flu,,,,dealing with random issues that arise oh so often…meh!

Moving on…got a string of interesting messages the other day….One from Mr. Proposal..apparently he’s moved on (good for him)..but with someone who is just like me..only shorter (eh what?) Yeah..I also don’t understand why he had to write and tell me that..the email contained other nonsense that myself and the beloveds couldn’t decipher so I moved swiftly past that…

Another email made me wonder about the friendships I have with certain people. I find it so funny (in an unfunny way) how people quickly develop amnesia..and forget the part they had to play in a rift…sigh. I’m tired of this whole break-up to make-up merry go round I have going on with some people…it needs to end soonest..

Now that’s off my chest..deepest breaths..back to the manicure..(painting the nails purple…so pretty..lol)

Playlist:

• So ambitious- Jay Z ft Pharrell
• Champagne Chronic Night Cap- Solange ft Lil Wayne
• Replacement Girl- Drake ft Trey Songz