Having been tagged by KaraokeFanatic.aka.Bff.. over there…let’s do this!!

Honeybunny,

Much easier to do this in a list (yes your love for lists will never leave you…tis indeed one of the small joys of your life..heehee)

• Mummy is not enemy no.1. Yes it may seem that way, seeing as all you do is fight and argue 24/7 but trust me…things will get better with time. (Yes I know this is you watching me in disbelief…as you are probably nursing a headache from a bout of shouting not 10 minutes ago…but wait and see). Soon (ok mebe not soon but in a couple of years), you will actually look forward to the phone calls, look forward to going to visit…good things!

• Treasure the friends you make now. For real…these women will be the next best thing to sliced bread in your life (Ok after God, family, nyef-nyef..they follow pretty quick). You will go through loads of issues, from the funny to the not so funny…and they will be there all the way..amazing right?

• Boys…(sigh)..I know you can’t be bothered one way or another, while your nearest and dearest are crushing on this and that guy…but best believe, tis better to wait. If only there was a way to hop, skip and high-jump past some of the guys you dated…but I guess you need it for learning purposes (Yes I also don’t get that part..I don’t need to jump into the ocean to know its wet right?) But ah well…Let’s move on..

• Love the quirks that make you, you. For real….they are not about to change anytime soon. So you might as well embrace them. Staring at the ceiling listening to music while playing with shadows on your wall, talking to self (such a joy huh?), loving cartoons (yes they will still make you happy couple of years to come), love for many brights colors rocked at the same time, moments of silence (yes you will still need to lock yourself away from the world coupla times to regain your sanity…but yeah, too much alone time creates moodiness…so watch out for that)..

• Don’t take betrayal to heart. People will come and go..some will repeatedly come and go from your life..(time to digress..this tabia you have of finding it hard to let go off people, you will have to komesha. Try! I know its hard,,but the sooner you learn the better!!!) So where was I? Oh yes, they will come and go, but try not to get too bitter. Some people make genuine mistakes, others are just a***holes..the sooner you learn the difference baby girl, the better.

• You might be wondering where your life is headed….well, hopefully you’re still on what you had planned for yourself since you were young…so yeah…doing good girlie.

• Love the wowowo! I know at this point you’re probably in some baggy sweatshirt or big ass sweater covering every curve…but seriously, things are not as bad as they seem. The wowowo is here to stay…embrace it I’m not saying wear outrageous non-clothes but try and experiment with different styles. Buy a dress or two. You’ll be pleasantly surprised…I promise.  You will still have issues with it though (no lies…you will still have moments when floaty stuff rocks your boat).

Time to get back to my work…and let you get back to staring at the ceiling while Creed blasts out in the background.

Love,

Val

xxxxx

Playlist:

• Good enough- Evanescence
• Beyond the stars- Jeff Bradshaw/ Glenn Lewis
• Giving myself- Jennifer Hudson

So I decided to get adventurous with my hair at some point during the week. I think its the result of watching all these vids on caring for black hair bila heat that got me inspired. So Val starts twisting and plaiting and bantu-knotting the hair…following all the vids’ instructions to a T..(and cheers from certain fab girls on twitter)…end result, kinda alien-ish…but ahem, this was all done before bed-time. So I didn’t have to scare anyone with this new transformation. Woke up all syked…after the usual shower…dress..nyef-nyef..undid the twists and all and voila! Curly goodness! Wasn’t I overjoyed!

Sadly Mother Nature had other ideas….the wind blew and undid all my hard work..leaving me with a Simba-esque afro. sigh…anyhu I decided to rock the hair with a head band and big earrings…and sang theme tunes from the Lion King all day..

(for your enjoyment…yes I cannot be the only one who hums this when randomly crossing the street..lol)

Anyhu, moving on…had the second session of group work these past 2 weeks. And all I can say is Thank God its over. I can’t stand working in groups….sometimes you strike lucky and get a good group…but yeah..that rarely happens unless you get to choose who you want to work with…

Things Val is currently liking (alot!):

• Long walks- ahem of late I have been pushed into walking…ati its good exercise for me…whatevs..I just enjoy the company. So I have been panting, short of breath and shiny faced couple of times…3 things that I simply loath. So this walking best be worth it.
• Singing silly songs…whenever you hang out with someone who is equally silly, if not sillier than yourself, there is a certain solace that you’re not alone…heehee. I made a recording of a karaoke style Boyz II Men cover (I know 3TOC can sniff the name from a mile away…) juzi…and whenever I’m blue, I just crack it open…it never fails to bring serious giggles..

Playlist:

• Not like crazy- Jill Scott
• Teenage love affair- Alicia Keys
• In love with you-Erykah Badu
• Today- Musiq SoulChild

So at what point do you know that you have moved on?

Is there supposed to be a big AHA! moment ama a couple of signs here and there will do?

And if you experience a moment of weakness (ie start to miss them, send a random text/email/phonecall/agree to meet up) does that count as a set-back in the “getting over” process ama is that just a random blip?

How do you know that the next relationship you enter into is not a rebound thing?

ValFM:

• Put it on you- Missy Elliott ft Teyana Taylor and Pharrell
• You want this- Janet Jackson
• Its a party- Tamia

So something that happened today got me thinking about relationships and the effect family and friends have. I personally have never done this, so I was wondering if it works.

There is this school of thought among some girls (and as it surprisingly turns out men as well) that believe that if the mother and sisters of their SO likes them, then they are more likely to get the guy to commit to them. Don’t get me wrong, I know family acknowledgement is important, and I would not consider being in a serious relationship with someone if my family had good reasons to dislike or distrust him.

However, just because my mother and sisters like you does not mean we are meant to be! I mean surely, in this day and age who still does things like that? Who tries to get all friendly with the person’s siblings in the hope that the siblings will sing your praises and make me see the light, see that you and me are meant to be! NKT!

Even then..that is not too bad…what really gets to me is someone deciding that since I have never introduced them to my family, they would take it upon themselves to make that introduction themselves..and proceed to creep out said sibling. NKT! If you cannot/will never convince me to be in a relationship with you, how will my sister help you? Seriously help me here..I’m bila answers.

*Singing along to Bug a boo by Destinys Child*

“And so what, my momma likes you
What now? I guess you think I will too
Even if the Pope said he likes you too
I don’t really care ’cause you’re a bug a boo“

I’m smiling (even inside my head)….yes this is something interesting to me coz I haven’t been this way in a while…ok let me rephrase that. I always wake up happy..but somewhere along the way I get a case of the blues…or a feeling that can only be described by myself and lovely over there (——–>> pointing to her) as “Meh!”

Things I’m currently happinessing over:

• Interesting use of technology (at least in the Val family)..having a conversation with my sis and mum over skype and phone at the same time. How do you ask? Skyping with the sis when her phone rings, and I insist on mummy being put on loud speaker…(very LOUD conversation that was).
• Mum kinda okayed my sister to come over to mine for the Christmas break…joy indeed. This is why: I shall cook till I drop (She eats all she wants and remains slim…some of those genes need to be re-awakened in me!) , shop till I drop (or go broke..whichever comes first), talk till I go hoarse (This is self-explanatory), watch seasons of girlie tv programs like ANTM (and get re-acquantained with my missing fashion sense)…and generally chill. Now all we need to do is convince our main bank manager (aka daddy dearest) to ok this (financially..lol) and we’re good to go! (Praying….please let it be!)
• Interesting conversations…good conversations with people I haven’t spoken to in a while have the power to keep me in a high for a while. Right now…the high is major! I finally got the truth from someone. I may have waited since December..but it was ooh so worth it!! This has shown me that sometimes friendship can survive the strain of long silences..and funny (read strange) conversations in between the silences…Just hope this time when we say “Let’s stay in touch“, we actually do stay in touch…I could do with this awesome-ness every now and again!

ValFM:

• Peace- Norah Jones
• Song 2- Blur